Music To Remember Me By

Bekah says I'm morbid because I'm always referring to "when I pass."  I've already told people about special jewelry I want them to have; some books; furniture; holiday decorations, etc.  When my friend died it made me see the need to plan ahead.  Share you likes and dislikes because it is so difficult to think when your heart is crushed and your thoughts are distorted in grief.  Its hard to pick up the shards of your love from the little pile surrounding you when someone you love dies and thoughtfully put things together so you can clearly think to plan a service.

I remember one summer day I took Bekah all over the house to show her where things are, where some things are stored, and what are the really important things.  I love my boys, but boys don't think with the sentimentality of a woman.  I'm so grateful for my daughter in law.  She gives me joy and much needed estrogen in this house of men.

Today I told John, the kids, and my girl cousins that on my phone I have a play-list called "My Passing."  Its a list of all my favorites.  There are actually 81 songs which means my service will be  long OR they will have plenty of songs to choose from.  They range from Whitney Houston's "I Want to Dance with Somebody," the old songs of Ireland, to Getty hymns and everything in between. There are enough dance songs on the list that a dance party after the serious service could be enjoyed.

I don't plan to go any time soon, although I'm not afraid to die at all. In fact I hope Jesus comes really soon and takes me! But if I live long enough that folks I love need to have a memorial service, I have a path for them to follow with decisions made to ease their sense of responsibility. Have you thought about it?  Considered your own passing?  I haven't done this so everything will be my way.  I've done it as my final gift of service to my family.

I'd love to hear your thoughts.